CITY COUPLES STAYING AS FRIENDS
The Asian Age (Feb 2004)
By Skimmy Gupta
Sex could be everywhere in mind, but certainly not in bed…At least for some couples in Mumbai who are staying together as “friends”. From Vatsayana to Freud –many have tried to explain human sexuality. But it still remains a mystery. Infertility experts reveal many city couples living together for many years hardly indulge in sex. These couples have not even consummated their marriage due to lack of sex education. This often gives rise to infertility problems and couples are forced to approach infertility experts.
Infertility specialists feel people getting married dedicatedly fix appointments with fashion designers, salons; but seldom consult an infertility expert or gynecologist before the D-day. They feel proper knowledge about sex before and after marriage is a must for an individual. They also suggest pre marital counseling sessions for couples could help them enjoy a happy married life.
Dr.Rishma Dhillon, consulting obstetrician and gynecologist, Jaslok Hospital and research centre informed,``Sexuality, marriage and fertility are all closely connected. The younger generation is inquisitive to know about sexuality, but very often for wrong reasons. Youngsters have doubts about their own sexuality but have nobody for answers. Parents and teachers may not always know and even if they do, are not the easiest to approach. This gives rise to myths and misconceptions. Many couples coming to us do not even know foreplay techniques. I have been approached by ayurvedic doctors, orthodontists, doctors and affluent couples who are living with their spouses for many years without indulging in proper sexual intercourse.''
Dr. Nandita Palshetkar, infertility specialist, Lilavati Hospital, Bandra receives many infertility cases wherein most couples are unaware about sexual intercourse .She says,``Sexual performance and fertility of a man are so closely associated that his sexual performance suffers when he faces problems with his fertility and vice versa. Therfore;It is not rare to find a couple in whom all conceivable reports favour fertility and yet conception has not occurred despite artificial insemination with donor sperms. While many centres treat women's infertility problems, infertile men have few places to go. This is because the problem is complicated by two distinct aspects: sexually related conscious factors that influence intercourse and unconscious factors such as qualitative and quantitative inadequacies of the sperm.''
Dr.Rakesh Sinha, gynecologist and MD, Beams Hospital at Khar informs that a couple belonging to Mumbai’s high society recently visited him .He adds “They were married for two years and had sex only two times. Also two NRI couples approached me with a similar problem. When marriages are not consummated in such cases; it becomes a serious problem. All awareness from TV and net about sex is more of pornography than education. People need to understand there is a difference between titillation, stimulation and education. To begin with, schoolchildren should be educated in matters of anatomy, sex differentiation, social roles of parents,sexual hygiene and sexual value building.''
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By Skimmy Gupta
Sex could be everywhere in mind, but certainly not in bed…At least for some couples in Mumbai who are staying together as “friends”. From Vatsayana to Freud –many have tried to explain human sexuality. But it still remains a mystery. Infertility experts reveal many city couples living together for many years hardly indulge in sex. These couples have not even consummated their marriage due to lack of sex education. This often gives rise to infertility problems and couples are forced to approach infertility experts.
Infertility specialists feel people getting married dedicatedly fix appointments with fashion designers, salons; but seldom consult an infertility expert or gynecologist before the D-day. They feel proper knowledge about sex before and after marriage is a must for an individual. They also suggest pre marital counseling sessions for couples could help them enjoy a happy married life.
Dr.Rishma Dhillon, consulting obstetrician and gynecologist, Jaslok Hospital and research centre informed,``Sexuality, marriage and fertility are all closely connected. The younger generation is inquisitive to know about sexuality, but very often for wrong reasons. Youngsters have doubts about their own sexuality but have nobody for answers. Parents and teachers may not always know and even if they do, are not the easiest to approach. This gives rise to myths and misconceptions. Many couples coming to us do not even know foreplay techniques. I have been approached by ayurvedic doctors, orthodontists, doctors and affluent couples who are living with their spouses for many years without indulging in proper sexual intercourse.''
Dr. Nandita Palshetkar, infertility specialist, Lilavati Hospital, Bandra receives many infertility cases wherein most couples are unaware about sexual intercourse .She says,``Sexual performance and fertility of a man are so closely associated that his sexual performance suffers when he faces problems with his fertility and vice versa. Therfore;It is not rare to find a couple in whom all conceivable reports favour fertility and yet conception has not occurred despite artificial insemination with donor sperms. While many centres treat women's infertility problems, infertile men have few places to go. This is because the problem is complicated by two distinct aspects: sexually related conscious factors that influence intercourse and unconscious factors such as qualitative and quantitative inadequacies of the sperm.''
Dr.Rakesh Sinha, gynecologist and MD, Beams Hospital at Khar informs that a couple belonging to Mumbai’s high society recently visited him .He adds “They were married for two years and had sex only two times. Also two NRI couples approached me with a similar problem. When marriages are not consummated in such cases; it becomes a serious problem. All awareness from TV and net about sex is more of pornography than education. People need to understand there is a difference between titillation, stimulation and education. To begin with, schoolchildren should be educated in matters of anatomy, sex differentiation, social roles of parents,sexual hygiene and sexual value building.''
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